Stop Trying to be Perfect

One of the greatest hang-ups that many of us have is that we aspire to be perfect. Somehow, we have taken on board the belief that we should aim to never be seen to make a mistake, to never be seen to make a wrong decision, to never get angry, to never be impolite and so on. And we have become so caught up in this belief that admitting to any fault, even the tiniest, sends us into spasms of self-doubt and denial.

How many people do you know who willingly declare that they made a mistake, without it having to be dragged out of them with a pair of pliers?

The truth is, that perfection does not exist anywhere within the cosmos because if it did, All That Is would not be an evolving entity, and that would mean we would not exist. The only reason that we do exist here in this third dimension, is so that we can experiment with the new and untried, and therefore learn about opposites. We are here as an experimental force learning about hate and fear in order to truly understand love and compassion.

Therefore, it is absolutely imperative that we stop trying to be something that we are not, and accept that it is OK to be exactly as we are i.e., imperfect. If we get something wrong, so what? If we make a wrong decision, who says it really is wrong? Maybe the decision might produce an effect that we would prefer never happened, but the lesson learnt from taking that decision just might be the greatest lesson of all time.

If there are times when we get angry, then we must allow ourselves to express that anger without feeling guilty, but also without projecting that anger towards another living being; human, animal or plant. And if there are times that we are impolite, well that's OK too, because nobody gets it right all the time, so give yourself a break.

Allow yourself to get it wrong and allow yourself to feel good about admitting it. Love yourself for being human, and love everyone else too, for the errors that they make. Try a little compassion out on someone else when they make a mistake and watch how good they feel about your acceptance. Then try it on yourself.

An excerpt from 'Journey Out of the Third Dimension' by Susanna Thorpe-Clark