Conditional / Uncondtional Love and relationships.

Today I want to share what I feel is an correct understanding of Unconditional Love, Conditional Love.
and relationships.

Conditional Love comes from a desire to love oneself and is then caught up in seeking it externally. This type of love has expectations. That word is very key in understanding this. Conditional love expects that the external lover will fulfill the love entirely. They no longer require a search for anything else. As long as an exclusive relationship with all the expectations is maintained both parties can avoid the pain of heartbreak and disappointment.

Conditional love seems to me very dysfunctional. It limits the growth of each partner by the very expectations that are placed upon the love. It causes pain. This pain is necessary to be vulnerable too as it teaches with great depth and wisdom. Most beings experience this type of love most frequently as it prepares them for unconditional love.

Unconditional Love has no expectations...well by the very definition it does have but one. I will explain this later on. Unconditional love is the label we use to understand that love is not external but rather what one gives to oneself. Full acceptance! When you give yourself full acceptance you are practicing unconditional love. This allows you to know that despite any external factors you are loved. You are loved because you simply allow and accept yourself and therefore love. This type of love feels very light but intensely warm and loving. Very little is required to feel unconditional love and if you love yourself unconditionally it is nearly effortless to give this love away. Therefore it becomes infinite. It simply draws upon the infinite supply of Source love.

I did mention earlier that unconditional love has no expectations...well it does have one. It expects
that the love you receive or send is done with no expectations. That in itself is an expectation!

So ultimately there is only Love. This is even easier to share and send out. You simply love because you do.

With my most cherished I tell her instead of "I love you", I simply let her know "You are loved"

The first statement is true only in as much as i believe in the duality of her and I. If I instead know that really we are but one then the second statement is more accurate. Truly words begin to fall apart as the real sharing of love is through action. Saying "You" implies to our brain a separateness
and a giving or receiving feeling. Simply looking into each others eyes and saying "I am loved" is by far the most accurate. It does however not feed the ego of the other person very much and seems almost as if nothing was given! So it must truly be felt through a connectedness of the most highest level of relationship, that being with your twin flame. Then the ego is gone and no longer has to worry if it indeed is getting any love! For now I am learning to be open with You are loved and I must say it is working! For those of you new to this and wanting to feel it just know that when your most cherished says "You are loved", they are in fact sending you love from their heart and letting you know that all of us here love you too! Your ego may complain for the first few times, but I promise it gets easier!

Also instead of telling your beloved that you love him/her...show it. Then it is understood even better!

There is no reason why I cannot love an infinte amount of beings, though I can CHOOSE to have
defined relationships with others. How that is defined is each beings choice solely.

What I mean to say by this is:

Love is not a relationship.Love is a gift we choose to give others because of our ability to feel compassion for them because we feel compassion for ourselves.

A relationship is a state of connectedness between people. This level of connectedness is a free choice that those involved are able to make and in respect and truth, agree upon. Relationships have many levels of connectedness, from a handshake and knowing a name to a blissful night of tantra.
We each get to choose how we would like to relate to our fellow beings. There are no rules, only what each other wants. Even better would be to allow the relationship to simply flow and find it's own balance without requiring lists of rules and regulations. This though is helpful to some and so I do not discourage that for those who feel it is helpful.

So I find myself now with the new understanding able to (unconditionally)love whomever I choose to love and relate to whomever i wish to relate to on whatever level I choose. This will give me the greatest opportunity to heal as I will be ultimately exposed to many more relationships and expand my love infinitely. This will help me remember who I am.

None of this could have happened for me if I did not at first make myself completely and utterly vulnerable to my most traumatic heartbreak. I have written about that in a previous blog.

I allowed myself to literally die of heartbreak. I had no escape. I could only fully accept ALL of the pain. Then came light, then you all appeared to me. Then the last one I had to "lose" held my hand and said now you understand. You have to love yourself completely. Now that you do, I can love you too.

How many times in your lives have you heard, "You can't love anyone till you love yourself" sounds simple right? It is, but it is most profound and requires immense fearlessness. The rewards are vast though!!

Now I know how much love there is, my heart can no longer be broken. This is not to say I will not feel pain if a lover or friend hurts me, but I can say I KNOW my heart is my own and I can share it, but one must cannot "give" ones heart away....unless you desire to step through the gates to infinite love...then I highly recommend it...and don't worry you will endure...you will heal...you will be that much more ready to loving your twin flame!

Most dearest spirits, let me say to you..You are all loved. Thank you for your time. Aum-ha.

I am , a little seahorse.