Male and Female roles

male and female roles

What gender does to people is staggering. The way in which persona and interests are influenced by a cultural label is crippling to the nature of the individual. This is seen in 'jock' and 'debutante' stereotypes but goes much deeper. Men are commonly shamed if they do not take on attributes associated with 'masculinity' and women are shamed if they do not embody attributes associated with 'femininity'.

It is widely known that males are commonly influenced into a desire to be sexually active with many, while females are commonly influenced to desire only one for life. It is attributed to the 'feminine nurturing instinct', (a result of their role as caregivers) and the male's instinct to 'spread his seed' but this is a falsehood. Rare does anyone have sex desiring a child and homosexuality negates any such idea. It is more influenced by the remnants of male domination. A time when males dominated females, so they could indulge themselves in distractions without ever being seen in the light, out of a fear of knowing themselves and females allowed themselves to be dominated so they wouldn't have to face themselves and accept responsibility for themselves. It is wholly a cultural issue and not biological other than they way we evolved after forcing our people to fit into these molds.

When one examines the 'feminine nurturing instinct' more closely it is clearly not a feminine issue at all. Males take care of their own to the same extent and the ways in which men are less loving are merely the result of cultural bondage and shame that makes them perceive it as weakness, to avoid looking at the vulnerabilities themselves. In reality, all humans love. All humans care for, protect, and nurture their loved ones. Recently its been alleged that males have less of a chemical in their brains that make them actually love less than women. If this is true, it is a result of an evolving state of bondage, not the whole self in its rightful expression.

So why do these archetypes exist? Why do we force everyone into roles that no one wants? There is something to be said for the difficulty of 'breaking the cycle', which can only truly occur when one has the knowledge and tools to do so. There is also something to be said for the way people hide behind those roles. Males reveling in their role as 'masculine' to avoid finding a deeper truth, females reveling in their role as 'feminine' to avoid the same truth. Feeding the male's ego by needing him to take care of her, feeding the female's ego by projecting an 'unmale innocence' onto her. Both hiding from the vulnerability of their feelings by acting as an archetype that is widely perceived as real to avoid having to actually be real.

So what do we do now? How do we heal and liberate ourselves? Of course the first answer is to look inside and let go of judgment. Find what you enjoy and know there is an avenue to fulfillment. Another great exercise is to observe the way you automatically treat males and females based on their sexuality. Based ..xperiences with others of their gender, without taking each person as an individual. Then break it. Every human being in existence is capable of living the life they desire. Everyone is empowered, whether they've evolved into actually using it or not. Treat every human you come into contact with as a fully thinking individual capable of everything you are. This touches on issues of social stature, The American Beauty Myth, and the hierarchy of civilizations. No one is a role. Everyone is a free, empowered being that can accomplish any single thing that has ever been accomplished and anything their minds can now perceive, provided the interest and passion is there, of course. Love yourself as who you truly are without comparing it to fraudulent molds and if it is ever difficult, trust that if you just do it anyway, you'll find your way.
Do what you love. There's nothing else here worth doing.