Same old story, same old drama, how are YOU affecting it?

Another drama unfolded yesterday, another person villified. I took my turn a little while ago, was called some very ugly names, a whole load of people jumped on the bandwagon in support of the accuser. I contemplated putting my side of the story across at the time but I was guided to avoid the situation and wait for it to die down. It eventually did, but not before someone who I had not known well prior to the drama but grew to respect throughout it all, left the website.

I was not the first, I was just the latest in a long line of people, and still am. If you would care to check my tracking you can decide for yourself if my messages I sent came from love or fear, I am also willing to show any private messages sent. I would also like to point out that in only a couple of conversations we had, I never sent the first message.

I dont actually have any ill feeling towards the person creating the drama. It is not in my interests to hold grudges, the whole thing pushed me to look at some of my fears, so it was a lesson for me too.

This message is really directed at those who continue to send support to the accuser, in the name of 'love'. To be fair, some of you are brand new to the site and have no knowledge of what has gone before, but those who have been here longer and send their support do nothing but perpetuate the drama. The 'Rescuers' and the 'Caretakers'. How many of the rescuers and caretakers have bothered to check what has actually been going on before jumping in with their 'love and support'? How many have sent messages of support to those who are on the end of the poisonous accusations? No, the rescuers and caretakers are often too busy picking up the 'victim' and feeling good about themselves for doing that to really check to see the other sides of the story.

This brand of 'love' is completely alien to me these days, though I used to be a rescuer/caretaker, so I remember how it used to work. To me, these days, the highest form of love is empowerment. Do you really think you are helping the 'accuser' by giving your support by begging her not to leave? Lets pretend your child has a pattern of falling over. You finally realise that the reason s/he is falling over is because s/he is getting cuddle every time s/he falls. Do you keep giving a cuddle? The Rescuers and the Caretakers would! They have to because it terrifies them to think of themselves as someone who is NOT loving, NOT supportive, NOT caring, NOT compassionate.

How can you 'be' love until you have embraced ALL sides of yourself?

So, to the accuser, this message isnt really directed at you. You clearly only want to be told what you want to hear. I see you create a lot of emotional pain and fear. And there are still plenty of people here in fear who are willing to support your pattern of creating emotional pain. And then there will always be someone new, coming from a position of love, who will try and confront your pattern, and then the same old drama gets played out again. So where does it all end? I dont know. But what I do know is that if there is one thing uglier than seeing someone in pain, its seeing those that call themselves 'lightworkers' acting in the name of love yet actually coming from fear.

Im sorry if I have offended anyone, but if there is one thing I strongly push back against its bullying. What the 'supporters' dont seem to see is that the ones who get bullied are the ones who try and confront the fear! Its hard enough for me to follow my guidance and take a step back when its me on the receiving end, but its even harder for me to take a step back when I see other people I like and respect being villified. And it wont stop until the pattern changes.

Best wishes,
Andrew