Questions on Twin Flames

Ya know I read a lot of posts here about Twin Flames, and feeling the need for a
Twin Flame to arrive in our lives. I'm not too sure how folks got the idea that Twin Flames were people...it has always been my understanding that your Twin Flame is the other side of your male/female self. That meeting and uniting with your Twin Flame was a personal and internal process.

I dunno if it's just that Twin Flame has become a new way of saying Soul Mate, or if some folks meet a real live human Twin Flame in their lives. Or have we simply glamourized the idea of having a partner to the extent that we feel even our spirit is somehow incomplete unless we have the right person to share life with?

Now I don't abscribe to the human TF way of seeing things. I had a very dramatic 'joining' of my own male and female energies. It wasn't something I coulda mistaken, it was MAJOR. It felt to me like what I understood about joining of TFs. So if TF's are actually humans in 3D, what is that experience called? The joining of male/female energies?

When I met my husband I recognized him. I recognized that he and I were in that exact place and time by plan, and that we would go forward from there together. I don't know how I knew that, I just did. After exchanging our first few words, he had to get to work (he was a tour guide, taking his previous tour to airport)I turned to my sister and told her I will spend the rest of my life with that man.

Of course she snorted and ignored me. But I knew that's how it had to be, there simply was no alternate way. Now remember that I'm on holiday in Australia, and I have a life, my family and a career in California. But never once did I wonder how it could all happen. I just knew it would be that way.

Soooo, if I'm understanding what folks are saying about Twin Flames, he sorta fits the picture. But...well, naaaaahhhh....it wasn't like that. No immediate perfection filled our lives. We were not instantly able to understand one another. We were most certainly NOT on the same wave length about a whole buncha stuff. Both being over 40, we had a lotta time to work out who we were on our own, and the edges sometimes didn't fit all that well.

We had to WORK at our marriage. I mean REALLY work. We got all sorta counselling with shrinks and marriage counsellors. We spent several years working on things. Now, if we were actually Twin Flames we wouldn't have had to go through all that would we?

The one thing we did have was a complete and total commitment to the marriage. We made a contract on our wedding day. Simple little contract, but totally binding and unbreakable.
No matter what happened nobody could leave the marriage for 50 years. (remember we were both over 40) At the end of that 50 years the marriage license expired and anyone was free to walk...or get wheeled...away, no questions asked.

Might sound a bit silly, but we MEANT it. Ya know, when you're stuck with somebody for 50 years, with no escape clauses...well, you learn how to do it right. That's what we did.
We learned how to do Life Partnership...and we are damn good at it. But Twin Flames?
I dunno...

yarra