What does it REALLY mean that we are ONE???????

It's been a while for me since I posted last, but appears something has been afoot. As far as I am concerned it is all perfect. A lot of people new to the site (last 6-8 months) have NO idea the drama that played out almost exactly a year ago on this site. Well, actually it was several mini dramas all affecting each other. Funny how it was exactly this time last year. A little too coincidental if ya ask me. Anyway, several people left as have done now from what I am gathering.

We all have come to this website with some kind of attachment of how it "SHOULD" be. How people "should" behave. How they "should" speak, think, act, treat others. When we look at what we EXPECT from the website it isn't unlike what we expect to see in our own "real" lives. How our family "should" treat us, spouse, co workers, clients, friends. So when we are upset by something they have said or done we are actually reacting to our OWN belief in how they "should" have been different. It is our own belief that is causing the misunderstanding, hurt, sorrow, pain, distrust, betrayl. Our reaction is a beautiful mirror to what beliefs we are holding to be true that are now (at this moment) keeping us from feeling peace. So what to do? Question your beliefs. Are they working for you? YEP! Well good on ya! Nope? You can change them, release them and or heal them.

There is a ton of sadness that comes up when you realize you are believing your thoughts and it is your thoughts that are hurting you. No ONE and NO thing else holds the responsibility for your feelings. Just little ole you.... No one has the power to make you believe anything. Only you. That is such an empowering, freeing thought. You are only a prisoner of your disempowering thoughts and beliefs. You are the prison guard as well. Is it time for you to open the door and set yourself free. Maybe not. Maybe you like the comfort and coziness and the knowingness you have created for yourself? Maybe freedom is far scarier than the limitedness control of your thoughts and beliefs. The are not you. They are what you created to protect yourself from having to feel afraid. Yet you already are afraid that is why you hold so tightly to the beliefs you have created. You are afraid of not knowing. You are afraid of being afraid.

So what does this have to do with us being ONE? I have heard we are one=love= whatever until I could puke! It is hollow and meaningless if you are just saying it for the sake of saying it. What does it mean??????????????? Well, I (for that matter no one else either) have no way of "knowing" what its means but I would like to offer a perspective that works for me......

Anyone we meet, talk to, look at, think of, write to, dream of, dream with, kiss, touch, caress, well you get the picture, we have an energy exchange with. That is at the most basic level. The man on the bus three seats down. The lady in the supermarket checkout 2 lanes over. You may only notice them in your peripherial vision. But they are there with you creating the moment. You share each others energy albiet briefly. Then there are others who you may only say "hi" to or see their face here on the website again a little bit more of an energy exchange and connection (you thought enough about the stranger to say "hi") Then there is the next level you may have a conversation with the lady next to you in the bank queue, you may reply to someone here on the website. You may look at the homeless man on the street and wonder, or feel compassion or offer change. In this level you have had a thought about the other person and acted on it. They have responded in some way even if that is ignoring you or being rude. Thus it has reinforced some belief you were holding to be true (ex. you offer a homeless person change and they say "thank you" You have just reeinforced your belief that it is right and good to give change to homeless.) Kinda see how it works. And so it goes...Your interactions with your friends the energy exchange is deeper and more intimate than the lady in the queue. Your family even more. Your partner well I suppose that depends HAHAHA. In each exchange the energy you are sharing is mirrored and amplified by your beliefs that you hold to be true. That is why it hurts so much when our partner betrays us (he/she is actually betraying our belief about how they should be). We don't have as much shared energy with the the guy three seats down but his energy is just as much a part of us as our family, we just don't have so many beliefs about how he should be.

So when we heal, release, change our beliefs about ourselves and those around us it is amazing what happens. We begin to see them as dance partners in the great dance of life. Some may dance by us as we make a fanciful turn others may do a little jig right in front of us as we laugh in playfulness yet others may hold us close if ony for a moment and we smile. A smile of unknowing yet of deepest gratitude for the moment. We dance as long and as soft and as close as we can the music may change and someone else dance in we have no way of knowing and that is where the joy is. This moment believing only that it is all I could have asked for and more. Believing that all of you who share the floor with me are me as we have shared each others energy willingly and freely.

So I am you and you are me. We have shared our energy freely and willingly. In that moment of sharing there is no separation. You have come into my life to shine a light on that part of me that was hidden in the shadow looking for a way to be free. The homeless man is that part of me that is afraid of losing it all. The little girl in the supermarket is that part of me that is angry my mom wouldn't get me the candy I wanted when I was 4. The punk on the street is that part of me who just wanted to be accepted when I was 16 and felt like I didn't belong anywhere. The starving child in Africa is that part of me that wants someone to care. The murderer in prison is that part of me who just couldn't take it anymore. The power hungry politician is that part of me that is afraid of not being in control. The mom who smacked her kid is that part of me who is tired, who just needs a break. The insensitive blogger here on the website is that part of me that just wants attention. So you see I am you and you are me. That is just how it is. Perfect. Of course I am not THE murderer or the punk or the starving child in Africa but you see how my beliefs are reflected in each of them. It is only through forgiving myself and healing these beliefs that my relationship to and judgement of them is healed.....in doing so we free our selves and free the world.

So this is how when we take responsibility for healing ourselves we heal the world, all those on it and our relationship with everything we see. Ultimately when the healing is done there is no responsibility left to take.

Yours in Joy,
Jenn