Non-Judgement

We are often told that if we want to ascend, to be loving, in joy then we need to be living a life of non-judgement. But what does it mean to live a life on non-judgement?

I want to start off what I want to say with a couple of scenarios. Firstly, lets pretend my Mum decides to make a cake, she makes the mix and then decides that it will cook best in the refrigerator. Should I support her decision to try and cook the cake in the refrigerator? Should I tell myself that she is 'being who she is' by cooking it in the refrigerator, and leave her to it? Should I extend my understanding to her of what she is doing and say 'well done' Mum?

Or do I tell her that the cake isnt going to cook in the fucking refrigerator?!

Secondly, lets pretend my friend wants to drive North to Scotland from London, and sets off heading South to Brighton. Should I support his decision to go south instead of north? Should I tell myself that he is 'being who he is' by heading south, and leave him to it? Should I extend my understanding to him of what he is doing and tell him its a good decision?

Or do I tell him that he is heading in the wrong fucking direction?!

Ok. So what point am I making here? Well, I feel there is an unhelpful misperception here on the website as to what non-judgement is, and what it 'should' look like. To me, standing in non-judgement is standing in a position of understanding that ALL is perfect. My Mum trying to bake the cake in the refrigerator is perfect. My friend trying to drive south to get to Scotland is perfect. But its also perfectly wrong in terms of the goal they have set! My Mum's goal is to bake a cake, my friend's goal is to get to Scotland. Neither of them are going to achieve their goals if they continue to head in the direction they are heading. And if the universe decides that it wants me to confront them, then I am not going to let an idea of what 'non-judgement' is get in my way.

Here on the website I believe we have a shared goal of wanting to ascend. Of wanting to be in joy. I have very clear ideas of what it takes in order to ascend and be in joy. Maybe you think they are wrong, and thats fair enough. I would love to hear what you have to say - I am happy to argue about it. Maybe I will learn something. But if we are all too busy trying to demonstrate some kind of support, empathy and understanding because we believe that that is what non-judgement looks like, we are going to get bloody nowhere. The irony is that, it is believed that this support, empathy and understanding, is ascended behaviour!

The difficulty is this. We are told what ascension looks like. We are told what it is to be a master. We are told that in order to be someone who is ascended, or be a master, we need to be non-judgemental, non-attached, loving, joyful etc...
But trying to behave like an ascended person or a master puts the cart before the horse. We end up behaving how we IMAGINE an ascended person or a master to behave. I believe that an ascended person and a master takes action from a position of being surrendered to the whole. The characteristics are secondary. If you want to experience what thats like, then the way forward is to find out what fears are stopping you from consistently surrendering. Maybe the fear of being seen as confrontational, or being seen as unloving, or unsupporting, or unempathetic is keeping you from surrendering. We cannot know what sort of person we will be when we are surrendered. The fear for most of us is of who the universe will ask us to be, and the potential consequences of having to be that person.

Have a great day,
Andrew