Twin Flames

Hi all,

I recently was given another side of the issue regarding Twin Flames to consider. So many of us at some time or another have dreamed of the perfect someone. Our other half. The missing piece of the puzzle. Soulmate. Prince Charming. Etc. Dreaming of a life of bliss. Our sentences completed. Sharing thoughts, dreams, goals. Seeing things eye to eye just as we do. Enjoying everything that we do. Balancing us perfectly. A ying for our yang. Compassion, deep romantic love, understanding, oneness, connection, affection, the list goes on. We believe that once we find our Twin Flame then we will be able to have or experience all these things.

Some have described the Twin Flame as the following...a spark (of light/love) that is divided and becomes two separate flames (souls). These two separate souls have their individual journeys and eventually end up back together uniting the flame. There are many variations/theories that attempt to describe the same principal.

Now although this may all sound well and good and very romantic, there begs a question...how helpful is this belief to bringing us joy?

If we are in a relationship and it is shit we say well he/she obviously isn't my twin flame. If we are single we are in constant awareness that he/she "the one" is out there somewhere. The story of a twin flame keeps us in a dream of a better life out there somewhere. And if you think you found your twin flame the story keeps you from being open to ALL possibilities. By this I mean, when we attach to the person, we attach to what life should look like, we attach to them being perfect for us, we deny their and our own freedom to grow and change and evolve and ascend on their individual path. We become clingy and fixed in our ideals.

Maybe the story of twin flames is real, but, SO WHAT???? Does it make you feel light and free or pressure and a sense of I have to get this right? Do you look at the person beside you with an attitude of gratitude for the moment you are given with an understanding that this moment may be the last?

It is however very true that all people come into our live for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. We are not given anything beyond that while on this earth plane. Most of us have come here during this lifetime to fulfil time-specific contracts. We may have partners or lovers that bring out the worst part of us so that we can heal it or we may have wonderful lovers that show us the glory and beauty that we are then die or move on or betray us. Is either less than the other in what they have brought to us for healing or celebration?

In my opinion the sheer likelihood of us meeting the one soul that is our perfect mirror image in this whole universe is soooooo unlikely. It is far more likely that the true twin flame is the shadow side of ourselves that we deny and push aside and say "bad ego". Once we shed light on this side of ourselves and embrace it, we have reintegrated all that we are in this deminsion ending the duality of self. Thus bringing that split flame back together. The twin flame is none other than the person staring back at you in the mirror. Only then can someone come into your life to play in freedom and joy.

When you are wholly integrated, no longer denying any part of your self, no longer looking outside of yourself for someone else to fulfill your life, you become free. You are open to joy, playfulness, passion, celebration and dancing. Others look at you and want to play too. They may dance into your life for a moment and that is perfect, they may dance into your life for a lifetime, they may dance into your life forever but they are dancing and are free to dance away at the will of the universe.

Life is playful and light, easy and joyful.

We never get exactly what we are looking for when we try to tell the universe not only what it should look like, when it should arrive, and how the bow on top should be tied. It is very presumptuous and egotistical to think that we know better than the universe what will make us joyful, or what is in our best intrest.

Here is where those that are into manifesting would say but wait a minute. I thought... yes the tools of manifestation would suggest otherwise but the very key to getting results is the non attachment to the final product. Only through this can we be open to recieving all that the universe would have to offer.

For me it worked like this...When my boyfriend danced into my life it wasn't easy for either of us. Neither were our ideal imagined partners. But it seems the universe wanted us to be together to heal the shadow sides of ourselves that we had denied. As we have embraced our shadows, it has become easier to experience gratitude and joy for the person that he is and that I have become. The funny thing is that as we have grown together we have become more of the imagined ideal we each had dreamed of, but ironically it doesn't matter anymore. Though he still pisses me off sometimes, I feel the universe's smile everytime he laughs. Will he be in my life forever? That really is irrelevant to our joy ease and freedom, the things we are consciously choosing to co-create. All I know is that I am very grateful for this moment and that the universe has brought us together at this moment in universal history to experience the monumental shift in consciousness together. So what if we are not together forever? I trust that the universe knows what it is doing. And if we are...well I will count myself blessed.

My point is finally this, the story of twin flames, like the ascension, is a story. No one can definitively prove its factual basis. WE know that something huge is happening in our percieved reality but there are millions who don't and futhermore could care less. We can't prove the nature of twin flames no matter how wonderful the dream may be or even the relationship that we are in right now. We have no way of knowing that it will last a week, let alone forever. What I have seen it do on this website and in the world though, is depress people and make them think there is something wrong with themselves or their partner. It gives them the idea that one day they will be happy when their life is complete. BUT, what if it is complete? What if it is your contract to show people that joy comes in many forms, such as being single? What if the special someone in your life right now, has come into your life to heal a pastlife hurt and then move on in freedom. We, although part of the universe, have no way of knowing what is in the highest interest of the universe and often ourselves. It is only through releasing our attachments to the romantic fairytales that we have dreamed of, that we can open the door for the universe to pour out the real and tangible blessings that are in store for each and everyone of us.

Yours in joy,
Jenn