Secrets of Happiness !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Secrets of Happiness by Ken Keyes

We constantly tell ourselves such things as, "If I could just go back to
school and acquire more knowledge-perhaps get a Master's degree-then I will
be happy." But are people with Master's degrees or Ph.D.'s any happier than
the rest of us? It is beautiful to acquire knowledge but it is misleading to
expect it to bring us peace, love, and happiness. We tell ourselves, "If I
could only find the right person to love, then I would be happy." So we
search for someone who our addictions tell us is the right person-and we
experience some pleasurable moments. But since we don't know how to love,
the relationship gradually deteriorates. Then we decide we didn't have the
right person after all! As we grow into higher consciousness, we discover
that it is more important to be the right person than to find the right
person.

We must deeply understand why all of our negative emotions are misleading
guides to effective action in life situations. Our negative emotions are
simply the result of an extensive pattern of scars and wounds that we have
experienced. And these emotional wounds lead us to perceive differences that
make us uptight instead of similarities that enable us to understand and
love. The present programming of our emotions makes us perceive other people
(and the conditions of the world around us) as threats-potentially dangerous
to our well-being. We then respond with adrenaline, faster heart beat,
increased blood sugar, and other jungle survival responses that prepare us
for fight or flight. We are trapped in our ways of perceiving the world
around us.

But no one (or no situation) need be felt as an emotional threat or danger
when we see things with the clearer perception of higher consciousness.
Think of the most threatening situation you have felt in the last day or
two.

Are you about to lose your job? Is the person for whom you feel the most
love paying more attention to someone else than to you? Do you have unpaid
bills that you cannot take care of? Do you have a pain that could be cancer?
Now, these problems either have solutions-or they don't. Either you can do
something about them here and now-or you can't. if you can do something here
and now about them, then do it-even if it's just a first step. It saps your
energy to be worried or anxious about a problem. Do what you can do-but
don't be addicted to the results.

As we reach physical maturity and our biocomputer (or brain) is able to
function more perceptively, we have all the power we need. But our
biocomputer (backed up by the full repertory of our emotions) is still
programmed to compensate for the power deficiency we experienced when we
were infants and young children. We now need to learn to flow with the
people and things around us. But our power addiction keeps us from loving
people because we perceive them as objects that may threaten our power,
prestige, or pecking order. If we want to love and be loved, we can't be
addicted to power-or to anything else.

As conscious beings the only thing we need to find happiness in life is to
perceive clearly who we are (we are pure consciousness and not the social
roles we are acting out), and exactly what are the real conditions; here and
now, of our lives. How basically simple is our problem! But to achieve this
clear perception of ourselves and the world around us takes constant inner
work. And this means developing the habit of emotionally accepting whatever
is here and now in our lives. For only an emotionally calm biocomputer can
see clearly and wisely, and come up with effective ways to interact with
people and situations.

Our power addiction is only one example of the happiness- destroying
programming that we put into our biocomputers when we were too young to
perceive the realities of the world in which we lived. Although we now have
the basic capacity for clear perception, the operating instructions we gave
our biocomputer anchor us to the lower levels. And so we're unconsciously
trapped.

Here and now is the reality in our lives - and it is only from the
conditions of the present that our future can be generated. But our present
addictions, demands, and expectations (the programming of our biocomputer)
dominate our consciousness and force us to spend most of the time we are
awake (and most of the time we are dreaming) in protesting and pouting about
the here and now situation in our lives. This lowers our perceptiveness and
keeps us from finding effective solutions to our problems. The Living Love
Way to Higher Consciousness shows us how to break through this trap, to free
ourselves, and to find our full potential as human beings.

http://thetrinityproject.squarespace.com/the-living-love-way/

Shared with Love and Light, Rosalie xo